So now we come to the final installment, the one you’ve all been waiting for, in our search for a viable contemporary Metaphysics. Yes, this final essay in the series will deal with the concept of Sexual Transcendentalism, that is, Sex as an ultimate medium for achieving higher consciousness. So, fasten your seat belts.By way of introduction to the subject, let’s put the Sex/Metaphysics Connection into historical perspective. The first known philosopher in the Greek tradition was a chap named Thales, who lived ca.624B.C.E.-546B.C.E. Little is known about him, and he left no writings, but he is credited by Aristotle as having put forth the first comprehensive metaphysical theory with his statement to the effect that ‘All is Water,’ or perhaps ‘It’s All Water.’ That was it. Not exactly a book there, right? Nonetheless, we know that in point of fact his take on reality was surprisingly accurate, if lacking considerably in detail. My point is that beginning with Thales, metaphysicians have been honing their theories since the 7th Century B.C.E., without the slightest mention of sex-as-transcendent-vehicle. No doubt there were many that experienced such transcendence, and perhaps a few even wrote on the subject, but no systematic treatise of any kind has survived in the West, and as a result we have waited a long time, until the 20th Century in fact, to see Sex gain entry into the overall discussion. Moreover, it has had to wait even longer to be dealt with in any kind of formal way, at least as a valid topic for academic philosophy is concerned. The truth is that we are just beginning to grasp the significance of sex as it relates to our spiritual lives. The fact that irrational prohibitions and taboos continue to hover so tenaciously over the subject is still beyond comprehension, but I think we may finally be seeing some cracks in the puritanical armor of the collective consciousness. With a few more open minds entering into the discussion, we may not be utterly naive in hoping for increasingly meaningful dialogue on the nearly limitless power of sexual self-expression. Happy the man who may contribute to such a worthy cause!
OK, so just how does Sex come together with Metaphysics? It is part of what we discussed in Part I when we noted that modern metaphysics could not remain content with academic knowledge while stopping short of direct experience of its objective. Sex may just be the most effective and certainly the most enjoyable method of achieving that direct experience. Everyone has had what they consider to be galactic sex at one point or another, that time(s) when the partner was perfect, the mood was perfect, and the climax was best described as celestial. These moments are what most of us would categorize as ‘peak,’ but in fact, very few of them actually qualify as transcendent. When speaking of transcendental sex, I refer to a specific understanding of an activity that facilitates a very real transformation of what we generally call ‘personal’ energy or ‘self’ into extra-dimensional Universe-Energy. As beautiful, wonderful, and desirable as our peak sexual encounters may be, they fall short of this transcendental level unless certain specific characteristics are present.To begin with, the only kind of sexual experience that possesses transcendental capability is that which fulfills our deepest, secret sexual fantasy or fantasies. I am speaking here of those fantasies most of us rarely express and may never actually experience. The ones that are ‘too dark’ or ‘too weird’ or ‘too embarrassing’ to share with anyone, let alone ones romantic interest. Each of us has such fantasies, and they embody in totality that experience we long for above all others. Instinctively, we know that they represent transcendence, though we don’t often connect them with the term itself. For some they are more obsessive than for others. It is socially considered a sign of being ‘well-adjusted’ if these obsessive desires remain fleeting and entirely peripheral. For others they come to rule the person’s entire psychic make-up. Naturally, there are endless levels that exist between the two poles, depending on the individual. But regardless of where one places the forbidden drive, it remains the portal to transcendence whether it is explored or not. It represents a completely other experience from that which most people mean when they talk about ‘great sex.’
The element of Ritual is also an essential part of such fantasies. Ritual not only renders concrete that which was merely ethereal, but it provides the religious connection to the state of ecstasy being created, which transforms feeling into an act of reverence and Worship. The sense of Worship, of emptying ourselves completely to the presence of the other—and thereby into Absolute Being—is vital to the propagation of the transcendent act, the moment of translation into higher reality. This is the problem with the standard conception of sex as an expression of love between two people. Well, it may be such an expression, and it may NOT be. The problem with the sex/love connection is that it tends to move counter-intuitively towards repression. We want to feel that the more we love someone, the less inhibited we become, and the more willing we are to share our deepest secrets, but in truth it works in precisely the opposite way. The other can become so precious to us that we actually FEAR showing them who we really are. If we have the sense that the other is not going to relate to our particular brand of erotic fetishism, we are more likely to suppress our feelings than to try and communicate them. We don’t want to be rejected, and we certainly don’t want to lose someone we feel in love with because we got too kinky for them. This is why the enlightened modern philosopher must be extremely careful to whom she offers her exclusivity. Ideally, for the purpose of transcendental sex, we need to partner with someone who either shares our particular obsession, or, at the least, someone whose judgements have no bearing on our lives. A professional domme, for example, may find your fetish strange, even grotesque, but he/she will understand your right to own it, and will do her best to see that your intention is accomplished. You may not be able to say the same about your girlfriend of 6 months.Worship and Ritual have no concern with anything long-term. This is precisely why they are necessary elements in the attainment of the transcendental experience, because their function is that of facilitating the shift from one form of consciousness to another DURING THE CEREMONY AT HAND. The most conducive setting for transformation may best be achieved when ones sex partner is intent on working the Ritual and fostering the attitude of worship, rather than forming ultimate value judgements about the partner.
Providing the partners are aligned in their sexual roles and desires, all notions of super-ego, inhibition, political correctness, censorship, or reluctance to offer up full personality disclosure are stripped away and the religious act may develop to its transcendental conclusion. If the forbidden longing, this ultimate fantasy springing from deep within the subconscious is brought to life, executed fully and without restraint by both partners, extra-dimensional translation can be expected and achieved. In such a state, everyday consciousness is left behind completely and we enter into the mystical state, that is, union with Absolute Spirit. In this profound state of enlightenment we understand intuitively the concept of Cosmic Consciousness. We perceive the entire universe as a living whole and understand ourselves as integral parts of that whole. No longer are we aware of any sense of separation from that which surrounds us. We become as atomic imperatives in the grand order of everything. We see and now comprehend the multi-dimensional structure of reality, the tenseless nature of time, and the extraordinary existence of countless numbers of alternate realities in the forms of parallel universes, extra-dimensional portals, quadrants, and corridors, incomprehensibly vast membranes containing even larger numbers of universes, in short, the essence of all reality and our eternal connection to it. We understand our eternal nature as a given in light of our new knowledge that the universe is, in its foundational aspects, pure consciousness and that we ourselves are but manifestations of that same consciousness.
It’s safe to say that sex this good will change your life. It’s also safe to say that one cannot attain to metaphysical truth until one has experienced The Sublime. So whether it comes through sex, meditation, or a combination of the two, such illumination is the holy grail of modern metaphysics. May you be one of the lucky ones.

















